Why you shouldn’t be chasing romance…
It’s not uncommon for your Twin Flame journey to feel like you are lost in a maze, there are often many unexpected emotional twists and turns that seem to reroute you to a higher plan or send you off on a marvelous detour.
Contrary to normal 3D romances, that seem to just naturally evolve from the one stage to the next – your Twin Flame journey often leaves you wondering if you two are really meant to be? Because there seems so much standing in the way….
In fact the more you chase romance or try to force a romantic outcome with the twin, the more it will elude you because this journey is meant to bring you so much more than the love of a lifetime.
Using romance as a yardstick to measure the progress of your Twin Flame journey is like trying to measure length using a scale. A scale can only measure an objects weight, it can’t tell you anything about the length of the object being weighed. In the same way the level of romance is in NO WAY an indication of the true depth of the love Twin Flames share.
If you want a better understanding of why meeting your Twin Flame is not just another ‘boy meets girl’ love story, please download the free Gangsta Goddesses Manifesto.
The Twin Flame Labyrinth
In our blind panic chasing a romantic outcome the Twin Flame journey feels like a maze we are lost in and can’t find our way out of, yet if you would just calm down, take a deep breathe in and open your eyes you would see you find yourself in a labyrinth.
A labyrinth has only one path. It is unicursal. The way in, is the way out. There are no dead-ends, that lead to nowhere. Instead the path leads you on a circuitous path in to the center and from there, back out into the world again.
A labyrinth is an ancient symbol that relates to wholeness, which is where the Twin Flame journey leads to as well. It combines the imagery of the circle and the spiral into a meandering but purposeful path. Although it sometimes feels like you have already been where you currently find yourself and it seems as if you are only going in circles, the spiral inwards allows you to revisit your inner themes from different angles and perspectives – helping you gain a deeper understanding of yourself.
In this way the Labyrinth offers you a journey to our own center and back again out into the world.
Labyrinths and mazes are often confused. When people hear of a labyrinth they tend to think of a maze. A labyrinth is not a maze. A maze is like a puzzle to be solved. It has twists, turns, and blind alleys. Because we don’t understand the Twin Flame journey (chasing a romantic union) and we don’t trust the process, the labyrinth becomes a scary maze in our minds – instead of a path leading inwards, to our own wholeness which it was always meant to be.
At its most basic level the labyrinth is a metaphor for the journey to the center of your deepest self and back out into the world with a broadened understanding of who you are – which is the Twin Flame journey in a nutshell.
Heads up, this DOES NOT exclude a romantic union with the twin but knowing yourself is an important ingredient of aligning to that union. You actually become a much better life-partner, when you have taken the journey inside of yourself.
The labyrinth as a metaphor for the Twin Flame journey
Most of the panic experienced on the Twin Flame journey comes from trying to get somewhere (a romantic outcome), where you are not and your frustration about not being where you want to be – paired with an outer reality that makes you fear that you will actually NEVER get where you want to be with this specific person.
That about sums it up right?
It’s this internal turmoil that makes the labyrinth feel like a maze because you don’t understand that in order to go within, you need to walk alone. You can’t go within, together with someone else because this other person would draw you outside of you by their mere presence.
But what if you would just relax and calm down and take the winding road within and get to know yourself? I don’t mean the personality you have formed based on conditioning not only in this lifetime but also from previous lifetimes. I mean getting to know the REAL you underneath your own judgments and internalizations of who others told you you were throughout your soul’s journey through time and space.
You would come out of it so much stronger, so much more aware of who YOU are and what you have to offer the world. You would be so much milder towards yourself, so much more loving, so much more understanding of yourself and others and everything you have learned to give yourself along the way, you are now also capable of giving to another.
But this time you wouldn’t be giving it to GET what you want from the other, you would just be able to give it authentically with no strings attached because you are no longer waiting for someone else to breathe life into you. You have learned to sustain yourself.
Because this is a union that is meant to last an eternity, it only makes sense that you would have to release all your subconscious fears, false beliefs and the bad habits that come from them. If you wouldn’t you would keep playing out the same old sh*t with your Twin Flame as you have in the past with every other lover in your life.
And so to align you to this eternal love and true harmony between you, the Twin Flame journey first brings you home to yourself – to be able to come home to each other.
When we don’t understand this, the labyrinth we are walking becomes a seemingly endless windy road that leads us nowhere… but this is because it is meant to bring up all our subconscious fears and false beliefs so that we can release them – because by releasing them, we come home to ourselves.
Are you a beggar coming to love with an empty cup?
Only when you have truly come home to yourself, do you have something worthwhile to offer the other. Because until then, like everybody else, you will be trying to get your needs met outside of you.
You are a beggar coming to love with an empty cup. The journey within teaches you to fill your own cup and come to the twin with your cup overflowing – instead of begging to be filled (which depletes, overwhelms and repels the other).
This is the number ONE reason you are not aligned to the union you crave, because a true Twin Flame union can only come when you have learned to fill your own cup. You can’t come to the twin begging to be loved, feeling broken inside and looking to them to fix you – even if it’s all subconsciously and you are not aware you are expecting them to save you.
That is why the Twin Flame journey is a labyrinth leading you first to the realization of your own wholeness within, so that when you come out – you can offer this inner wholeness to the world and the Twin Flame. You are no longer a half looking for your other half to complete you, which you were starting out on this journey.
This is the reason why romance was delayed, because you were meant to experience love at it’s highest octave and that is only possible when you have woken up to the truth of who you are. Only the journey within can lead you there.
To help you navigate the labyrinth of your Twin Flame journey I have created a step-by-step guide to creating inner union, outer union with the Twin Flame is but a mere byproduct and reflection of the union found within. In the Twin Flame Program, which is part of the Gangsta Goddesses Tribe membership, I help you see the labyrinth through the maze you are projecting on it and guide you deeper and deeper inside yourself to the union within.
When it comes down to it, Twin Flame union is really an inside job.
I pray that sharing the spiritual metaphor of the labyrinth helps you relax into the journey within, because despite the many other opinions out there of how to reach Twin Flame union – that may land you the girl or guy of your dreams, don’t bring you home to you. This is a recipe for disaster in the long run, because until you can come to your twin aware of who you really are and with your cup overflowing, you can’t access this higher octave of love simply because you are still looking for love in all the wrong places.
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Wishing you magic and miracles on this amazing adventure with your beloved.
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Lots of love,